In its most simplistic form, the art of growing up is both quaint and also beautifully complex. The creation of relationships with loved ones, making experiences in both strife and exuberance along with the passive discovery of meaningful moral and rules of life are all constrained in a critical time slot of adolescence.

However, a change of our environment, specifically the improvement in our society’s technological prowess can do both regression and benefit in the development of a child’s take on the world. The difference between today and the last half century would be arguably one of the most pinnacle and powerful change in circumstance than any time before. The quintessential child in play, roaming around the woods, flipping over rocks and picking up frogs by the creek has been replaced with the addictive fascinations to immediate gratifying resources of such as phones and gaming consoles.

However, this is only one of the most disputable arguments of change, another arguably subtle difference as well is the way parents’ relationships with their children have changed in spirit. But perhaps the causation of these minuscule yet imperative disciplines between the parent and child’s relationship are not specific to any era, but more so a continuous theme throughout multiple generations. 

The critical piece in fostering the growth of a child is time investment. The rise of both parents in bread winning can be observed as  as a product of improvement in the social norms that have been conditioned in traditional familial values. This however could mean less time invested in raising a child; relying more on nurses or baby-sitters and the like. To many this may seem like a standardized means of managing what is necessary with what is ideal in balancing work and home life, however the message that many child psychologists justify is that this may leave an impact on the child’s developing dependency for nurture and care. This may not be a problem in any sense of the situation, as the child may simply adjust to better self reliance abilities and learn independence, developing maturity. However, there are also instances of formulated resentment toward the parents for abandonment on the subconscious level, as the child learns to find love and care from various other resources, potentially pulling away from the parents themselves.   

This does not necessarily mean that to raise a healthy, happy child, one must spend every waking moment with them. An important part in connecting with a child is to establish a principle of responsibility. By involving a child in any community or activity that pivots a sense of importance that can be exuded in the parents’ interests can demonstrate a far greater impact in presenting the parents’ care in many instances. Simple acts as allowing a child to help with preparing a family dinner can do wonders in establishing an understanding for the child that their role in the family is imperative and in-expendable. Not only may this facilitate a bond between parent and child, but it also builds self esteem and self worth. Many examples of instilling a role that is perceptible to the child such as volunteering in picking up trash in the neighborhood, participating in the local soup kitchen; these can all build important values of generosity, kindness, but most importantly establishing a firm message that the child’s place and responsibility is important. 

On this note, how does one teach a child when they are misbehaving or exhibiting deleterious tendencies? What is the most effective way to teach a child about their wrongdoings, to discipline but also allow understanding and reasoning to how and why their actions could be improved? Reasoning and understanding is a key component in addressing any problematic behavior. Without this, the child may develop resentment as they themselves could not fathom the parent’s reaction to their behavior, as the disciplinary method enforced on them may seem cruel and unusual. This ties into a common issue especially in today’s society, where the energetic and rowdy demeanor that occurs in a state of excitement by a child in any setting less than suitable for it may be perceived as a demand for medication.

Many psychologists argue that the prescription of medication for ADHD and the like are presented at far too early an age suitable for children. However, the modern dilemma comes from time management by the parent in teaching the child the appropriate way to behave. Due to the higher demand for the attention of occupations from both mother and father from their jobs, the dedication to raising a child to hone their behavior is lessened. This creates a cascade of other alternatives of assigning this duty to strangers, daycares, but also medication. Many parents feel that medicating their children would be the right thing to do, but often this is far from the truth as instead of addressing the root issue of the behavior, the medication instead masks it and dulls the faculties and ability for the child to develop adequate social skills. The premise of prescribing these medications allow the relief of the responsibility from correcting the child’s behavior with communication and showing, but this is conditioned and condoned by the appearance of credibility from a reliable voice, the doctor. 

At the end of the day, no one really knows the best way to raise a child. There are many instances where a certain methodology that may be deemed unorthodox create a well rounded and happy individual, and vice versa. Parents have an immensely difficult job to do, and even though sometimes they may not do what is a perfect, we can at try to understand their own backgrounds and experiences for how they project their love and care.